Chapter 20 The Family Reunion

"Sometimes life brings you pleasant surprises -- it's not scripted or orchestrated, but just right. Life can be charming, like that, if you let it."
It was a family reunion -- one that has never happened at this scale before.

True, I spent nearly 10 days with Rio at the Chiswick flat.  During this time, I was also able to spend some quality time with Luke and meet his father, Derek who inspired me with his abstract paintings.

I was also able to go running with Luke a couple of times (take great satisfaction in his tremendous progress) as well as Chris (we ran down to Richmond together).  In fact London has been a great running city and what I personally dub "the fittest city in Europe".





Since Kae was in Tuscany for drama training camp, I was able to stay in her room. It was the longest I've ever spent at any place away from home in quite a while (not counting the Navy).

Chapt 19 Belfast -- an Old City of Conflict is now a New City of Cool

"People are building bridges.  The most important bridge been built is in each and every person...It's important to being part of the solution, not part of the problem."  
Arthur Magee 

As a teenager growing up in Georgia, I heard a lot of news of the centuries-old conflict in Northern Ireland.   The problem is, I really didn't understand it.  To me, this conflict was similar to the enduring Israel-Palestine conflict with no end in sight.  Sadly, the news seemed so remote, with no direct, personal impact, and I felt so detached.  I never expected to visit this country with my own eyes -- it was never on my radar scope, up until now.

So when I found out I would be visiting Mark and Lee (friends who I met at the Smithsonian Folklife Festival in DC three years ago), I realized there was a lot to learn.

Belfast is known for its troubles and religious conflict.  For over 25 years, the IRA was very busy here.  On Bloody Friday 1972, the IRA set off 22 bombs killing 9 people and injuring about 120.  The city had not experienced such a day of death and bloodshed since the German blitz of Easter Tuesday 1941. Nearly 1,000 lives were lost and 100,000 people became homeless.  One main fault was that when the bombs dropped, people did not know what to do.  There were no bomb shelters.  They did not know whether to run, hide or stay in their beds. The IRA hoped they would be just as successful in catching the government and the people unprepared in hopes of getting Northern Ireland out of the UK.

Truly, there was only one main pursuit: The Irish Republicans wanted a united Ireland. However, there never such a state as a united Ireland.  After all as a detached foreigner, I didn't truly understand what the big deal was, other than the name and the unity.  Truly, Northern Ireland and Ireland enjoyed an open border where citizens could cross either side freely without having to produce a passport.  So what's in a name?

Background

The conflict between the Catholics and the Protestant isn't  really about religion.  It stemmed from differences in social classes. The majority of the population in Ireland was Catholic.  They never underwent the church reform that England did in the 1500s.

Hostility arose between Catholics and Protestant when England began to establish plantations in Ireland and act as a colonial power.

Chapt 18 New Liberalism and the Greek Tragedy

"Greece brought us Sophocles and his tragedies.  Now another huge "modern" travesty is unfolding right in front of eyes."


Is the country of Greece  -- the societies that brought the ancient world to its height in art, culture and warfare -- about to fall apart?

Will this country's crisis bring an end to the European Union?

Will Greece become insolvent?

Chapt 17 Ode to My Sweet Grandmother


"I was no longer stressed.  Instead the sea of drifting sand gave me inner peace -- a peace so perfect, I knew only God could bestow."

I was supposed to venture out to the "White Desert" to admire the mushroom-shaped limestone formations.

I heard about the legendary white limestone cake icing that glows surreal and mysterious in the faint moonlight.

Further, I was told that I would be camping out with other backpackers from different parts of the world. This sounded like a lot fun thing to me -- camping in an unfamiliar landscape with people I don't know, but hopefully get to know before the night was over.

But there would be a sacrifice...


Chapt 16 The Precious Little Girl Picture

Patrice Richard from Paris knocked timidly on the front door of Ms. Ederne Edouard, a 31-year old woman, unemployed and illiterate and hoping for a brighter day.

     The French man who went by Patrice was surprisingly nervous and shockingly lost for words. In his hands he carried a picture of his adopted daughter, 15 years old, Sophia. From his lips, he mouthed the words from Sophia to his birth mother, "I love you Mama. I hope to see you one day, very soon."

Chapt 15 A Church Rebuilds in Haiti

     It poured hard early on.  The anticipated downpour at dawn rocked my frail tent like a bucket of hail or a barrage of barrel-sized buckshot crashing down on a hot tin roof on a dusty, summer day.


Chapt 14 My Tearful Journey to Haiti

I sat lucidly in the American Airlines Admirals' Club staring wide-eyed and dreamily into my laptop screen. I was applying the final touches to my relentless midterm -- an online, take-home test for the MBA school at the George Washington University in DC, soon realizing it would be nearly impossible for me to get out of this exam unscathed and in one piece.  Truly I needed to tend to things back home. But the announcement had already been made on the American Airlines' Intercom System that my flight from JFK was ready to board mosh kosh. I was once again in a hurry to get somewhere -- anywhere, other than here in the present moment -- and in this case, I was heading to Port-au-Prince, Haiti.

Chapt 13 My Last Run in the Navy

I was hurt, deeply hurt.  After serving 20 busy years in the Navy and giving my country everything they asked me and more, the Navy did not see fit to promote me to Commander and thus I was forced to retire.  I wanted to serve another 10 years.  I loved my country and I was proud of my job as a public affairs officer.

Now I would be making my final run in the Navy as part of the 34th Marine Corps Marathon, unsure of what the future held for me.

The start of the Marine Corps Marathon is always difficult because you're running uphill as soon as you get to Roslyn.  After scaling the hill and on the downstretch, I saw a girl who I recognized was on TV earlier in the week -- her name was Monica Velez and she was interviewed on CNN by Kyra Phillips.



Growing up in Lubbock, Texas, Monica Velez looked out for her two brothers, Jose and Andrew.

Acting as a surrogate Mom, the three siblings ran with their Dad who ran almost daily around their rural community in Lubbock, Texas. Running was their passion and what bound the four together.


In Nov 2004, Cpl Jose "Freddy" Velez was killed by a sniper's bullet in Fallujah. His brother Spc. Andrew Velez who was serving in southern Iraq, identified Freddy's body and accompanied him home..

After Andrew arrived in Afghanistan in 2006, he killed himself with a machine gun.

In a period of 18 months, Monica had lost her two brothers who she had loved and admired so much.

There's never a difficult or challenging time that she doesn't think of them. And today during the Marathon, she will remember and appreciate their sacrifices they made for their country.

Monica wants to raise awareness on the plight of those who have lost a sibling, what some call "disenfranchised grief."

Thanks to the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Monica has been able to not only get counseling from the VA, but has also been able to go online to reach out and share with TAPS's large network of siblings.

After hearing her story, I realized that I shouldn't be so down on myself. Monica Velez thought positive -- I could do the same.

Chapt 12 Taking Chance -- A Tribute to my Lifelong Shipmate

Phil Murphy-Sweet

"Some movies make an immediate impact on you. Some movies impact you for a lifetime."
Today, Colin and I just finished watching "Taking Chance" on HBO. It's a sad story about a Marine Lt Col who escorts the remains of PVC Chance Phelps home.

I am not sure whether Colin has ever seen a grown man cry, much less watch his father sob relentlessly.

The last time I remember crying with Colin was at his birth at the Balboa NavalMedical Center in San Diego.

And 11 years later, on this listless, grey day, the tear gates unlocked and my heart cried open.

"Taking Chance" is such a simple, thoughtful movie, it leaves you speechless.

It is not a flag-waving war movie that highlights the romanticism of war. Nor is it a sober critique that epitomizes the pain of a fallen soldier.

Instead it is about respect extended toward the casket by drivers, pilots and people of all stripes.

You never even see a picture of Chance Phelps. You never hear about what sports he played, his high school sweetheart, his buddies in Iraq.

In many ways, the kid with a bubbling personality and a moving story is all wrapped up and anonymous.

He is just like any American son or daughter who is a tragic casualty of the never-ending war on terror.

There is no politics, no agenda except to put a face on those who died and those who the took the call to bring them home.


Kevin Bacon portrays Lt Col Michael Strobl who volunteered to bring Chance home. Kevin plays the role so well that when he clearly wants to cry, but being on call cannot find a way to shed a tear, the audience cries out for him.

Why This Movie Touched Me:

In 2007, I was saddened to hear the loss of my Navy-school friend, Phil Murphy-Sweet. Cmdr Murphy-Sweet died from injuries from an improvised explosive device (IED) explosion in Baghdad.

I was completely stunned. Phil left behind a wife and three children, and I felt compassionate and sorrowful to his family, even if I had never met them.

I've known Phil long before he started a family.

In 1986, for 18 brutal months we suffered and persevered through a highly intense academic and physical training regimen called Broadened Opportunities for Officer Selection and Training (BOOST).

The rigorous military training proved our mettle and brought us together.

I didn't see Phil that much. We were in separate companies residing in different barracks and when not working out, I was always hitting the books. I had no choice; I was scared to death that I would fail and get sent home.

I wished I saw Phil more, and I feel especially close to him now.

I get especially emotional every time I see or hear about one of our own who didn't make it back home alive.

When I worked at Bethesda (2003--2005), I visited a lot of Wounded Warriors. Two Marines I had the honor to meet came back alive but tragically died under care from wounds sustained in Iraq.

I remember them distinctly. Their faces of grace, their looks of determination, the open gaze of desperation from their families. I'll always remember them dearly, and I'll never stop thanking them.

Today Phil is buried in our Nation's most sacred shrine, and like all the War Heroes who have come home to rest, I can always pay tribute to them in person and through prayers.

Chapt 10 The Stranger in my House

It was a normal day in the office at the Bureau of Navy Medicine and Surgery, working late then going to workout. Today I decided to go for a bike ride down Hains Point, and I was feeling on top of the world.  Coming home at ten o’clock was not too terribly late, and I had to make two trips from the car to the house.

I parked in the grass because I only had one parking space in my driveway.  I did not want a parking ticket from the district for parking overnight on a D.C street without D.C. plates.  As soon as I went to the back, one of my contractors called me which delayed me from the car. So I had to make two trips from the car to the house.

I made my first trip and dropped off my briefcase and went back out to get my bike.  I did not lock the door because I would be back in a couple of minutes.   From the corner of my eyes, I saw a man walking down the sidewalk twenty feet away.  Although I live in a residential neighborhood we get incoming foot traffic from Alabama Avenue in Congress Heights. I then dropped off my briefcase in the foyer. I immediately went back out to retrieve my bike; I saw no need to lock the door because I was only going to be in for less than two minutes.


As soon as I closed the door I again noticed the man was now directly in front of my house. He appeared to be in decent shape and carried himself fairly well, which I even questioned. He looked like someone that could have been my colleague in the Navy. In fact he resembled my drill instructor in boot camp marching smartly in front of me. 
In my Hope VI neighborhood in Henson Ridge located in the heart of Congress Heights people do not usually greet each other even on a sunny afternoon in the spring.
For some reason that night, it maybe because the Nationals just played in a brand new ballpark just ten minutes away. I had just completed a killer workout. So in some ways I felt comfortable. I had been waiting patiently for a several years for the Nationals to call SE their home.

“Hello, how are you doing”, I said.  I saw his eyes open in shock and I could see the whites in his eyes as they popped open. He seemed shocked as if saying hi to him was such a alien thing to do.

Personally I was taken back by how forthcoming and friendly I acted.  Perhaps I was still riding high from my killer workout or feeling good about the new Nationals stadium.
Then I turned around and proceeded to the back of my house to retrieve my bicycle.  I had not even taken one step back before I heard a bellowing voice.  I turned around to see the barrel of his gun pointed straight at my face. Then he told me to get down

“Where’s your money at” he hollered, as he proceeded to reach deep down into my pockets. He did not feel my wallet or find any money; instead what he felt was the pad cushions from my bike shorts I wore under my sweatpants.  Then he found my keys.

 “Don’t move.”

I wriggled in my pants.  I did not like anyone touching me, let alone a perfect stranger. 
It didn’t matter whether I was about to take my last breadth.  I was uncomfortable and my body twitched sharply.

I hated that feeling, even worse than the barrel of his gun against the back of my head.

“Where’s the money at,” he repeated.

“It’s in my car.”

He looked back at my driveway expecting to see a vehicle.  He did not know that I had parked on the grass next to my neighbor’s car. I didn’t feel the urge to share.

“You lie. There’s no car parked back there. Now where’s the money at.”

“It’s in my house.”

“Go get it.”

I got up, the barrel of his gun now against my back.

“Raise your arms.”

“My arms raised.” Out of the corner of my eye, I saw another man walking directly 
across the street.
I saw him turn his face ever so slightly and then he continued walking as if none of this was a big deal.
Then I went inside with the robber behind me his gun still pressed hard against my back.
Outside, there was a witness who was of no help.  Inside, whatever transpired was just between me and the robber.

“Now where is the money at?”

“Don’t turn around, or I’ll blow you away.”

“In my bag.  Let me go get it.”

I reached into my briefcase and handed him a wad of cash.  A bunch of twenties, some tens, a couple of fives.

“Let me have all that.”

“Run upstairs.”

“I’ll run, but with my briefcase, only.” I turned and for the first time got a good look at the robber.

I grabbed the bag and ran up to my room.  Locked the door and called 911 on my cell phone.

Then I quietly ran down.  The front door was partially closed.   Did the robber run away or was he still lurking inside the house.

“What does he look like?” the dispatcher asked.

“Do you know which direction he headed?”

Questions were asked and questions went through my mind. 

Did I do the right thing by not showing him where my car was parked?  By taking the robber inside the house.  By facing him and insisting that he would not leave with my briefcase.

But the biggest question of all -- why did I have to say Hello to a perfect stranger in the city in the middle of the night something people normally don’t do, something I’ve never done before, and something I would think twice before considering again.

** Lesson Learned:  After speaking with investigators and several people in the community, I realized that what I did, although gutsy, was the right thing to do.  I knew that there was no one inside my house, and since I did not have any money on me, my intuition told me that this thief wanted some quick cash before he would let me go.  I also, once inside the house, informed the thief that I was in the Navy, which I believe alarmed him.  Once he took the money, he gave me an opportunity to allow him to escape by ordering me to run upstairs while he proceeded to exit the house.  The next day, I immediately changed the locks to my house as well as the locks to my car.  

Note:  It is still ok to say "Hi" to strangers who walk by your house, even at night.  Obviously, use your discretion, and listen to your intuition.

Chapt 9 The Sun Shines on GTMO


July 2005

I braved the choppy waters and sailed solo-handed in graceful, charming but constantly shifty Guantanamo Bay. What a precious experience forged in eloquence and natural beauty amidst a world of chaos surrounded by guard towers and fences strung with razor-sharp concertina wire.




The wind was blowing relentlessly and many a times, I was feeling overpowered on the verge of tipping over only to ease the jib a notch and amazingly the boat would steady up slowly until I felt a sense of peace pervading my entire being.

Even with the constant battering and continuous heeling, the keel slicing the water's edge, I managed to get a good, steady hour out and back within the harbor's sanctuary without capsizing, crashing, or worse smashing my seafarer's ego.

After all, like life on the island and life on earth, sailing is prone to mistakes of all scopes and sizes -- many experiences, we chalk up to live and LEARN. Some we never get it, because we may be stubborn, short-sighted or selfish -- I know, I still have the scars from the deep wounds of these missteps.  For one, I was badly scratched up against shoalwater when Hurricane Dennis came roaring.  Some of them embarrassingly open, some hidden away, buried so deep, no one could tell, not even a loved one.


Rocky Times
I just gotten over a bad divorce.  I was saddened to hear that my wife was having an affair.  The divorce was messy because there is property in Anacostia involved and most importantly my son.  In a sense, this Guantanamo assignment was carthatic and exactly what I needed to get my mind off the situation.
Scuba GTMO
Later in the day, I plunged into the warm, healing Caribbean waters and dove deep alongside the pristine coral and the rich aquatic wildlife. Wow, what a fantastic experience. We stumbled upon a wreck in 25 feet of water. We saw the transom and the engine casing and it was covered in beautiful coral of many different shapes and sizes. It's true amazing and unfathomable how something that was so tragically lost can turn into something so graceful and majestic in a changing, dynamic aquatic landscape.

Then we swam against the ripping current right ontop of a coral reef. Have you ever seen these things with your own naked eyes? It is like an oasis in a sub-saharan desert with so much life and lifeform bubbling. The fish were swimming so peacefully, oblivous to the two mortal strangers adorned in awkward scuba gear, finning up close to sling a look. It was right then at that particular moment when I was calmly reminded of God's miracle and the majestic beauty that surrounded the underwater life world drastically different than the glass-covered microcosm above ground.

The next moment I thought about the several hundred men behind the bars. How ironic it was that they lived for several years in what to them may seem like a century, in the edge of paradise, but could not experience the depth and natural beauty that it so proudly flaunted. I knew that they could the hear the surf crashing night and day against the jagged rocks; could feel, smell the salty air, could even envision a spectacular Caribbean sunset bathed in a dark orange hue.

I also knew that the US had the right to hold enemy fighters during wartime and that we had good intentions to gain intelligence so that we could save American and Allied lives.   But was this really worth the impact and strained relationship we suffered with Europe, the Middle East and the rest of the road.  Sometimes the road to hell is paved in good intentions.

And suddenly the peace drifted away.  On our return leg, we faced torrential challenges trying to get back fighting a relentless current that was so vicious, many times we lost our breath and thought it might be our last one.

Still we persevered and the best part of it all was the 5 beautiful peach and gold conch shells so gargantuan, the size of my head -- ready for dining, cleaning and showcasing.

I am getting them cleaned now by the local Jamaicans -- they are professionals at it, and will show my friends my prized trophies when I return home.

In between these exciting, breath-taking experiences, I did some normal, benign activities like swam in the pool 3 times (once for an hour straight until my shoulders screamed for mercy), worked out twice and laid out for a couple of hours in the hot, relentless Caribbean sun. Poor me while roughing it up during my short deployment in the harsh environments of Naval Station GTMO.

But it is not all thrills and play here. Even this weekend, I have stayed busy working. Reading and preparing lessons and messages for the media for the upcoming week.

My Role for My Country
I love the natural beauty of Guantanamo, but I'm here to serve my country and to ensure the safety of Americans at home as well as our allies overseas from terrorism. But how is this the case? "The Nation and to some extent, NATO are fighting a war in the Middle East against al Qaeda and the Taliban. "What purpose do you serve over watching detainees in Guantanamo?"

Under the law of armed conflict, the US has a legal right to detain enemy fighters during wartime and to keep them detained until the end of hostilities. The reason for this detention is to protect our citizens and the security of the United States and to prevent the enemy fighters from returning to battle.

During this week and as part of our priority to remain transparent; we will be giving tours to national and international media for an Adminstrative Review Board (ARB). The purpose of the ARB is to determine whether a detainee should be released, transferred or detained.

Our mantra is this: We do not want to hold detainees any longer than necessary, and we want to provide the detainees a chance to be heard and to tell their story.

We seek to balance the safety of Americans and our allies overseas with the rights and freedom of each individual -- this would not be an easy goal to reach.

GTMO is not just guard towers and razor wires. There are miles upon miles of fiber optics buried throughout the island, and Camp Delta is a state-of-the-art detention facility modeled after a first-rate correctional facility in Bunker Hill, Indiana.


Transparency in GTMO
However, what is amazing about this conflict compared to previous engagements where the face of former enemy prisoners had remained largely anonymous, is that in this global war on terror there has been so much media coverage generated and opinions expressed on these detainees, that in many ways, these long-term denizens of this remote Caribbean detention facility have become almost instant worldwide celebrities drawing a large fan base of well-wishers who may not even know how to spell their names. Many of these enemy combatants, who were previously nameless have become sacrificial heroes back home.

Social Media
The driving force behind this campaign is the public's ingenious application of the internet, tapping into social media repositories, to carry their voices further around the world and to cleverly market their message of human rights and legal rights leveraging the power of the public and the power of Web 2.0 to an enormous gain.

As a press officer at DoD, I am very familiar with the stories and queries that are generated from liberal blogs and online publications like Cageprisoners.

Also many of the detainees have their own pages on Wikipedia dedicated to their background, administrative hearings and to used freely to promote their causes. Although we have not yet held a legal trial, we have conducted  several hundred annual administrative hearings which transcripts we have freely released to the public (after Freedom of Information Act request was filed). The vast majority of these transcripts are posted on the internet a testimony to DoD's trustfulness and transparency. However, unfortunately, some of these transcripts serve as additional fodder for the larger public to scrutinize and criticize our review processes.

Life in GTMO is always action-packed, life-changing, heart-wrenching and evocative.

Of the 20 plus times, that I've visited (either to stay awhile or to stay for a day), I have observed, pondered and tried to figure out right from wrong, good from bad.  I've also tried to imagine just what was in the minds of many of these men as they were picked up in Afghanistan, Pakistan, or inside al Qaeda safehouses.

How long do they think they will remain here and will they ever see the jubilant light of freedom.

And how long should the US maintain Guantanamo Bay?  Originally, many of the 760 men who were held here were low-level fighters until they were transferred home or released. There are many men here that will never see a day in court.  There are also many men who are so bad that they will never see the light of day.  These men include the notorious KSM who was the mastermind of 9-11 as well as the October 2000 bombing of the destroyer USS Cole.  Should the US continue to detain these evil men and prosecute them in Guantanamo, or should we consider bringing  them to American shores to face justice and jail or the ultimate penalty for their crimes?

While Guantanamo still could have worked, we sadly let things get of hand. While I do not have reason to believe that torture was ever committed in Guantanamo, the term has obvious broad interpretations and for that matter implications for many people from many different cultures.

What was at stake? National Security. Our image and pereception around the world -- which truly matters in a geopolitical environment.  The right thing to do, and the ability to sleep well at 
night.

Whatever the answer, it is fuzzy and complicated.  Well, yeah, quite gray.  Being gray means being open minded, flexible and always seeking input from your colleagues, friends, even enemies -- because they are the ones most willing and able to provide the information you need to succeed and the will determine how the initiative will be viewed throughout the world.   So, after count any rate, I knew exactly where we had had failed -- we didn't ask any one what they thought.


When the first detainees were transferred in January 2002, we did not let the rest of the world know our intentions and true objectives.  We didn't ask them how the rest of the world would feel about transferring these men tens of thousands of miles to Cuban shore.  We didn't ask whether they agreed with our decision to label these men "unlawful combatants" not "prisoners of war", a label that is not afforded the rights guaranteed by the Geneva Conventions.  And lastly, we didn't ask for their support -- something critical which we are depending on today as we transfer many of these men back home or to our countries that can guarantee safe custody.

I'm not necessarily in favor of closing Guantanamo Bay.  I believe the detention facility as it stands today has much value and is the right place to prosecute and detain these enemy fighters.

My issue though, is many of these men should never have been sent to Guantanamo -- a base facility that should never have been opened, a detention facility that now open should not be closed.